Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a testament to our humanity.

Many years ago, in early recovery, I learned that asking for help was a lifeline that I would lean in to over and over again. 

Asking for help can be a daunting task for many people. The phone can feel heavy, you don't want to bother anyone or experience fear of rejection. Mastering the art of asking for help is not only a valuable skill but an essential component of personal growth. In today's blog, we'll explore effective strategies for overcoming hesitation and successfully seeking support when needed.

1. Recognize Your Own Limitations

The first step in asking for help is acknowledging that you can't do everything on your own. We all have limitations, and it's perfectly normal to need help. Embrace the fact that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. By recognizing your own limitations and reaching out you are actively practicing taking care of yourself. I had a teacher early on that would say, "exercise your receiving muscles" and what she meant was, you can't do everything on your own, allow others to show up for you. 

2. Humans are biologically designed to connect

Can you remember a time that you were able to help someone and the value you got from it. We are designed to connect so when we reach out, we formulate those connections, allowing others the opportunity to come closer, join forces and feel useful. If you have worked with me, you know that I believe connection is medicine. 

3. Vulnerability is an invitation 

When we show up vulnerably, we send out a little signal that says it's safe to ask for help, we are humans not robots, I am fumbling too, you can lean on me, me too. Here we can bridge the gap from the illusion of perfection (curated from social media) and into the messy experience of life.

4. Express Gratitude

Regardless of the outcome, always express gratitude to those who offer their assistance. A simple thank you can go a long way in fostering positive relationships and encouraging future support. Whether it's a heartfelt verbal expression or a thoughtful note of appreciation, taking the time to acknowledge the help you receive demonstrates respect and gratitude.

6. Show up for others

Finally, remember to show up when you can. Just as you've benefited from the help of others, look for opportunities to lend a hand to those in need. Whether it's offering guidance to a new employee, volunteering in your community, helping a neighbor in need, or simply picking up the phone, contributing to the success and well-being of others is a rewarding experience that strengthens the bonds of humanity.

In conclusion, asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a testament to our humanity. By recognizing our own limitations, connecting to one another, and approaching the situation with vulnerability, respect, and gratitude, we can overcome hesitation and successfully seek the assistance we need. So, the next time you find yourself struggling, don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help. You might be surprised by the support and compassion you receive in return.

I have attached a list of free support lines if you are needing immediate help in crisis.

https://www.floridahealth.gov/programs-and-services/prevention/mental-health/links.html