The Human Condition Is What Makes You Real

“Does it ever go away?”

That was the question someone asked me during a 6-week challenge I’m coaching inside my gym. We were talking about the messy middle, that uncomfortable place halfway through a goal where the spark fades, doubt creeps in, and we start negotiating with ourselves.

They were talking about the inner resistance. The emotional waves. The part of us that wants to shut down, numb out, or run.

And I knew exactly what they meant.

Because no matter how much work you’ve done, how seasoned or discipline you become, life shows up, and staying on track with your goals and values when life shows up is hard work. You want to tap out and it feels justified. You want comfort over growth. I get it. We are human-beings, with brains, in a society.

So I told them the truth:

“No, it doesn’t go away. But that’s not a bad thing.”

What is the Human Condition?

The human condition is the universal experience of BEING ALIVE and aware. It’s the full range of thoughts, emotions, fears, desires, and contradictions that live inside all of us.

It’s the part of us that wants change and fears it at the same time.

That longs for connection but hides when we feel vulnerable.

That craves success yet doubts our worthiness.

It’s not a problem to fix.

It’s a reality to explore, to work with and to accept.

Why the Inner Work Matters

This is where coaching comes in. The work we do together, whether in the gym, in my office, retreats or group coaching, isn’t about eliminating the hard stuff.

It’s about building the muscles to meet it differently.

Just like physical training strengthens your body, internal work builds emotional and mental resilience.

You learn to:

• Notice your emotional patterns with compassion, not shame

• Interrupt the inner critic with truth

• Stay with discomfort without abandoning yourself

• Recommit when you want to run

• PAUSE before you blow things up

Ultimately, the work gives us choice and agency over ourselves when we are uncomfortable which leads to internal freedom.

Over time, the resistance doesn’t disappear, but your relationship with it changes. The fear might still speak but it doesn’t run the show. The self-doubt may whisper but your self-trust becomes loud.

Why It Not Going Away Is Actually Good

The fact that we still wrestle, still feel deeply, still get uncomfortable, that’s not failure.

That’s humanity.

That’s aliveness.

That’s the thing that separates you from ChatGPT and. . .psychopaths. 🤷🏽‍♀️

If the discomfort went away entirely, we’d stop growing.

If fear vanished, we wouldn’t need courage.

If doubt disappeared, we’d lose the opportunity to choose faith.

We may lose desperation, drive, the ability to love, empathy!

The human condition is what makes you REAL. And inside the realness is your power, the ability to observe yourself, to get honest, to try again, to evolve.

So no—it doesn’t go away.

But you get better.

You get wiser.

You get freer.

And that? That’s the whole point.